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Nine (9) Important Things To Know Before Getting Married

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 Nine (9) Important Things To Know Before Getting Married
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, also called matrimony or wedlock is a culturally recognized union between people, called spouses, that establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.

The definition of marriage varies around the world, not only between cultures and between religions but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion. Over time, it has expanded and also constricted in terms of who and what is encompassed.

These are nine important things to know:

  1. Be good friends. Don’t marry a stranger and hope you’ll become compatible over time. Start with a solid foundation of love, shared values, common interests, and trust.
  2. Don’t expect your partner to change. People do change, but not in predictable ways. So if your partner has a drug problem, assume he’ll always have one. Suppose you’re marrying someone with a drug problem, not someone who will, with time, stop taking drugs, and ask if you can live with that. If she doesn’t want children, assume she’ll always not want children. If he has a temper, assume he’ll always have a temper.
  3. Communicate consistently and communicate about everything. If you have a big secret in your life that you’re not comfortable sharing with your partner (a fetish, a crime you committed, a friend you ), this will likely cause problems down the road. Get it out into the open, now, and lay down a foundation of honesty. Fart in front of your husband. Tell your wife about your latest poo.
     Nine (9) Important Things To Know Before Getting Married
    A couple having their quiet moment

    Sometimes people say, “I woke up one day and my husband was a stranger.” But he didn’t become one overnight, even if it seems that way. People change gradually. It only feels like they change quite suddenly when they don’t continually talk. If your wife is slowly becoming depressed or dissatisfied, it shouldn’t take you by surprise. You should know about all the stages, through constant talk. There should be many, many opportunities for intervention.

  4. Make sure you can honestly discuss sex, money, children, in-laws, careers, politics, and religion. These are the contentious subjects that can drive uncommunicative couples apart.
  5. Value partnership. If this isn’t a high value for both of you, you’re in trouble. If you have lots of “deal breakers” or if, whenever there’s a problem, you think, “Should I stay or should I go?” that’s a red flag. Your marriage will have a better chance of success if you’re both committed to fixing problems and if you both think of all problems as shared problems.
  6. Work on projects together. Collaboration is one of the primary forms of human communication. It’s a kind of social glue. Try to find hobbies you both like doing together
  7. Play together. I don’t mean Chess, Monopoly, or baseball. I mean have tickle fights, or chase each other around the home; or roll around in the mud, together. Playing around is another social glue. You need to lose all dignity around each other habitually.

     Nine (9) Important Things To Know Before Getting Married
    Black African millennial attractive married couple in love or friends sitting on a couch at home. American wife and husband talking smiling feeling happy and satisfied spend free time weekend together
  8. Marry someone who has intimacy needs that match yours. Marriages can work between joined-at-the-hip couples, and they can also work between highly independent couples. But it’s hard to sustain marriage between a clingy person and a standoffish one.
  9. Have sex multiple times before you get married. Make sure you’re sexually compatible. Live together for at least a year before you get married. Make sure you’re compatible roommates.
Omolewa Badmus

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