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#SexForGrades: Other Victims Share Their Experiences
The exposed UNILAG lecturer, Boniface Igbeneghu

The sexual harassment encounter featuring the exposed lecturer at the Lagos State University may have opened Pandora’s box for the perpetrators as more victims have opened up about what they experienced at the hands of lecturers in their different institutions.

Two female students disclosed their unforgettable ordeal with TheNation, revealing how they were forced into the compromising situations.

The first of them, Aisha, who is a graduate of Management Sciences at the University of Benin, recalled how her project supervisor made her sit on his laps.

The recent alleged sexual harassment of female students by lecturers at the University of Lagos may only be a tip of the iceberg as more female students from tertiary institutions across the country have narrated their ugly experiences.

Undercover journalist Kiki Mordi has been hailed for her bravery

Young girls who spoke with TheNation in different parts of the country explained how predatory old men working as a syndicate blackmailed and intimidated them into exchanging sex for grades.

A graduate of the Faculty of Management Sciences, University of Benin, who identified herself simply as Aisha, recalled how her project supervisor insisted that she must sit on his laps whenever she was in his office.

“Whenever I went to his office, he would ask me to sit on his laps. I did twice and he would hold me very close,” she said in Asaba. My mind just told me not to resist him, as doing so would cause a lot of problems. And he would say, ‘You know I like you very much.’ I would reply, ‘Okay, I like you too.’ I really did not know what to do. But I noticed that around that time, he had a sort of crisis: his car was snatched.

“One night, I dreamt that the car was still somewhere in Benin, and I told him so. I said, ‘I don’t really know why I dreamt about you, but your car is still in Benin, around the side that leads to Auchi. I told him the exact point.

“That was how I got a respite for some time. He stopped pressuring me. Later, I don’t know where the idea came from, but I just told him I had a child, and he was like, why didn’t I tell him? He said that where he came from, it was a taboo to sleep with women who have had children for someone else, whether married or not. In fact, I had to acknowledge in my project work that I had a daughter named Miriam and a fiancé called Azeez.

“I think he even asked some of my course mates to spy on me because I was with a friend one day and one of them, Desmond, saw me with him and asked, ‘Is it the husband we don’t know about?’ Thank God that he coded and played along. I think he (lecturer) used that to validate my story.”

On whether the lecturer proposed marriage to her, she said, “No, he didn’t really say that exactly. He wouldn’t give me attention. Instead of discussing the project, he would start saying, ‘You know I’ve been looking at you. Since 200 level, you’ve been dodging me.

Asked whether she would have succumbed to the lecturer if the idea of a child had not come to her, she said: “There was another girl (female student) because he was not forthcoming with her, she transferred to another lecturer. I would have done the same.

Aisha also revealed that another graduate of UNIBEN claimed that a Department of Mathematics lecturer was in the habit of sleeping with female students in his office.

“He would just ask the female student to lie down on his desk and after sleeping with her, she would sign somewhere and that would guarantee her passing the course”

Speaking further, Aisha told the story of how a lecturer was caught sleeping with a pregnant woman and was subsequently dismissed. He had been under investigation for some time.

The recent alleged sexual harassment of female students by lecturers at the University of Lagos may only be a tip of the iceberg as more female students from tertiary institutions across the country have narrated their ugly experiences.

Young girls who spoke with TheNation in different parts of the country explained how predatory old men working as a syndicate blackmailed and intimidated them into exchanging sex for grades.

A graduate of the Faculty of Management Sciences, University of Benin, who identified herself simply as Aisha, recalled how her project supervisor insisted that she must sit on his laps whenever she was in his office.

“Whenever I went to his office, he would ask me to sit on his laps. I did twice and he would hold me very close,” she said in Asaba.

She added: “My mind just told me not to resist him, as doing so would cause a lot of problems. And he would say, ‘You know I like you very much.’ I would reply, ‘Okay, I like you too.’

“I really did not know what to do. But I noticed that around that time, he had a sort of crisis: his car was snatched.

“One night, I dreamt that the car was still somewhere in Benin, and I told him so. I said, ‘I don’t really know why I dreamt about you, but your car is still in Benin, around the side that leads to Auchi. I told him the exact point.

“That was how I got a respite for some time. He stopped pressuring me. Later, I don’t know where the idea came from, but I just told him I had a child, and he was like, why didn’t I tell him? He said that where he came from, it was a taboo to sleep with women who have had children for someone else, whether married or not.

“In fact, I had to acknowledge in my project work that I had a daughter named Miriam and a fiancé called Azeez. I think he even asked some of my course mates to spy on me because I was with a friend one day and one of them, Desmond, saw me with him and asked, ‘Is it the husband we don’t know about?’ Thank God that he coded and played along. I think he (lecturer) used that to validate my story.”

Asked if the lecturer actually proposed marriage to her, she said, “No, he didn’t really say that exactly. He wouldn’t give me attention. Instead of discussing the project, he would start saying, ‘You know I’ve been looking at you. Since 200 level, you’ve been dodging me.’”

Asked whether she would have succumbed to the lecturer if the idea of a child had not come to her, she said: “There was another girl (female student) because he was not forthcoming with her, she transferred to another lecturer. I would have done the same.

Aisha said that another graduate of UNIBEN claimed that a lecturer in the Department of Mathematics used to sleep with female students in his office.

“He would just ask the female student to lie on his desk and after sleeping with her, she would sign somewhere, and that would guarantee her passing the course.”

Aisha also claimed that a lecturer was caught sleeping with a pregnant woman and was subsequently dismissed because he had been under investigation for similar cases.

Another victim who gave a fictionized name of  Hajia graduated from the Faculty of Arts, University of Benin in 2013  and also shared her experience.

“It appeared the lecturers operated as a syndicate preying on female students. I was a course representative. Due to constant harassment, I tried to resign from the position, although this particular professor did not teach me in my first year, he saw me at the Faculty of Arts. He often drove to our hostel at Ekosodin and he would park his car. He would tell me he was outside waiting. He said he was going to teach me and that we should start a relationship. He said when he would be teaching me, things would be easier.

“He would talk about my body and how he wanted to touch and suck my b**bs. Just before our 300 level results were pasted on the departmental notice board, the course representative of the previous class told me he scored me “E” in his course. He said the professor wanted me to come to his office to complain, but I refused to go because I knew that he would make amorous advances at me. Behold, when the results were pasted I got an “E”.

Many lecturers make school uninteresting. I am yet to do a master’s degree because I feel it will be more of the same thing, and I do not have the resources to study abroad. He saw me after the results were released, asking if I was satisfied with my grade. He said other students were challenging their grades. He kept taunting me, calling me a coward who could not fight for her right. I refused to push. Even in my final year, he told me my result could still be influenced if I allowed him to make love to me. But I told him that I was satisfied even with a third class.

”Another lecturer who taught us at 300 Level scored me an “F”. When I challenged him, he responded thus: ‘You refused to give in to my friend. If I tell you that I want to suck your b**b, will you allow me?”

A final year student of the Delta State University, Abraka, who identified herself simply as Rose, said:

“We went to our HOD (Head of Department) as a group to get approval for our projects. He deliberately kept me waiting until it was just the two of us in his office. He started touching me inappropriately, telling me he wanted to make love to me in his office. I was scared and did not know what to do. I was saved when another lecturer knocked on his door. I fled from the office. After that incident, I never went to his office alone.”

A graduate of Theatre Arts who is also a scriptwriter, editor, director, and movie critic.

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