In most situations people tend to stop communicating with their exes after break up. It may be alright to do as it can help to avoid unnecessary familiarity, however, at times you may really need to talk to your ex. In your communication with your ex, there are things you must not talk about. This brings us to 7 conversations you should not have with an ex, they are:
- Don’t talk about his/her new relationship: in as much as you both can talk about so many things, avoid talking about his/her relationship. Relationship is very personal; don’t try to know anything about the new relationship. That is your ex’s cross, let him or her bear it. Even if your ex try to tell you about it, avoid such conversation. If you refuse and talk about it, your ex may think you are still interested in a relationship with him or her. If possible avoid asking about if he or she is in a new relationship.
- Asking if he/she misses you: this is not a good question to ask your ex, you should not even your ex to miss you. What for? You should be more concern about self-building than trying to know if an ex is missing you. You may really be sure your ex will miss you, notwithstanding, don’t ask, let your ex keep that to him or herself. If your ex try to let you he or she misses you, try to avoid talking much about it so you won’t make yourself look desperate and wanting your ex back.
- About how you move on: people have different ways to move on after a break up. While some may need help of others, some do not. Any which way your own is, it is not a gist to tell your ex. The conclusion is that you have moved on and that is all.
- Your new relationship: no matter how closes you and your ex is, never discussed about your new relationship or trying to compare it. If your ex tries to compare your new relationship with the former, shun him or her. The point is that your new relationship is presently working so don’t compare it with the ended one. Whether your new relationship is better than the former is something you should keep to yourself, you may even tell anyone you feel like but not your ex.
- Your Sexual Status: The boundary should be maintained, an ex is an ex, don’t try to be over familiar with your ex to the extent of discussing your present sexual status. Even if you were a virgin when you were with your ex, you do not own your ex an explanation about your present sexual status. Whether you have had sex after the break up is not something to discuss with your ex.
- If he/she is feeling your new vibes: some people always want to spite their exes after breaking up. You see them doing all sorts and going extra miles to be better off than when they were with their exes. It is a good thing to try to be better but let that be because you love seeing yourself getting better and not to impress an ex. No matter how much you have invested on yourself, do not ask your ex to give remarks about your new status. It may make him/her start believing all the investment if to spite or provoke his or her attention even when it is not.
- If he/she still wants you: many people make this mistake, in the process of communicating with their exes, they ask if the exes still want them. Whether your ex wants you or not is your concern. This most especially makes you look like someone that still want your ex back. It shows you have not let go of the relationship. You may think you have moved on, but when you are being desperate about asking your ex this, shows you are still obsessed with the relationship with your ex and have not moved on.
Worthy of note also is that never asked your ex if he or she still loves you.
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